Tuesday, May 3, 2011

Married too Long? Take a Sabbatical.

Lets admit it, being married for even a short period of time can see boring.  It can be even more boring if you've been married for a long time. 

Being a mature adult means accepting the fact that can't be exciting every day and there is some excitment that makes boring look good. So being bored isn't necessarily a bad thing.  There are those that believe that a sabbatical makes good sense.

A sabbatical from marriage can be rejuvenating and refreshing.  It can offer a whole new perspective on your spouse as well as the marriage itself.  Taking time to assess what makes your marriage boring from a distance can help resolve the problem.  However, as we all know that with or without children taking a sabbatical from marriage is impossible.  The logistics may not work at all. Your spouse may get  the wrong impression and your children may think that you are leaving for good, when all you are thinking about is a break from the day to day details.  

The good news is that you don't have to leave town, your house or even your bedroom to take a sabbatical.  A sabbatical can be a psychological state of being, rather than a physical location.  Here's how:  Close your door and diffuse this blend of essential oils:  lemon, orange, sandalwood and cedarwood.  You will feel like you are on the shore of a  beach on a Greek Island.  Picture palm trees, a crystal clear ocean and an azure colored sky.  The air is whispers a warm breeze and you sink deep into the soft white sand. 

Run a bath and add a cup of Epsom or dead sea salts combined with the glycerin and three drops of the essential oil of mandarin, 2 drops bergamot and 1 drop of rose or jasmine.  Slide into your tub and rest.  Close your eyes and think of being away, or doing exactly what you feel like doing and not what anyone else wants or needs you to do.  Then think about what life would be like if it was different. 

Use this time to think about your marriage.  What is it that is not satisfying you?  If you can't put your finger on it, realize that good and bad times are all part of life. 

True this isn't a sabbatical but it is a simple way to take a break and think about yourself if only for a few minutes.

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