Sex and Aromatherapy: A Hot Topic

For those of you who are experiencing a lackluster sex life, there's good news:  You are not alone.  My posting Why Have Sex?  Try Ylang Ylang "scored" the biggest hits ever on this blog. So here's the question?  why are so many people bored with thier sex life? 

Of course there are many reasons; lack of interest in thier partner, lack of a partner, pain, stress, emotional disconnect, lack of self esteem, physical or mental illness and the list goes on. 

From an aromatic perspective, olefaction smell can make a big difference in your attitude toward yourself-- and your partner. Scent is among the most primative sensations and most evocative. Using an essential oil can help remove the edge from being with someone you are either not terribly thrilled with or so thrilled with that you experience lack of self esteem and performance anxiety. 

A drop or two of a deep sweet frankincense combined with a few drops of sandalwood and blended in jojoba oil and used as a sensual massage to start can get those juices flowing as you or your partner begin to feel your muscles warm and relax.  Or you may diffuse this synergy with some essential oil of lemon to rev things up.

For lack of self-esteem, it pays to invest in essential oil of rose.  Extremely expensive its affinity is with the heart and confidence.  A less expensive alternative would be rose geranium. One heady drop of the essential oil of rose on the throat may be all it takes to unleash the burning lover within.  My suggestion for men would be sandalwood as it is relaxing without being sedating and has a warm masculine smell. 

You can cool down an over attentive love by diffusing peppermint. You can also sprinkle it on your linen. This invigorating oil can have  deep and heavy scent, but beware it can be arousing as well. To induce sleep in a boring bed partner offer a hand an arm massage with a lotion that is infused with neroli, and excellent oil for relaxation.

She'll Make you Want a Piece of Her

Some of us women are masochists.  We never got over getting put down in school.  Perhaps, we always wanted to be part of the in crowd and never were.  Some of us were awed by cool people.  Some of us, including myself have never gotten beyond and continue to put ourselves in situations where we are constantly seeking the approval of nasty, mean women.

You know the type... the hair stylist that makes you feel inferior.  The makeup counter person who is slightly nasty but very attractive, the personal trainer that looks down on us.  No matter how they make us feel we keep on going back and back and back hoping to win their approval for whatever we need their approval for. 

Wanna stop?  you can.  Essential oils help build confidence. Rose for instance can help repair a broken heart, cracked by disappointment and always being the odd man out.  Bergamot and cypress can stop obssesive behavior. Everytime you think of going into the jewlery store with the snooty sales woman, just inhale one or both of these oils and you will find yourself thinking of other ways to improve your self worth.

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Married too Long? Take a Sabbatical.

Lets admit it, being married for even a short period of time can see boring.  It can be even more boring if you've been married for a long time. 

Being a mature adult means accepting the fact that can't be exciting every day and there is some excitment that makes boring look good. So being bored isn't necessarily a bad thing.  There are those that believe that a sabbatical makes good sense.

A sabbatical from marriage can be rejuvenating and refreshing.  It can offer a whole new perspective on your spouse as well as the marriage itself.  Taking time to assess what makes your marriage boring from a distance can help resolve the problem.  However, as we all know that with or without children taking a sabbatical from marriage is impossible.  The logistics may not work at all. Your spouse may get  the wrong impression and your children may think that you are leaving for good, when all you are thinking about is a break from the day to day details.  

The good news is that you don't have to leave town, your house or even your bedroom to take a sabbatical.  A sabbatical can be a psychological state of being, rather than a physical location.  Here's how:  Close your door and diffuse this blend of essential oils:  lemon, orange, sandalwood and cedarwood.  You will feel like you are on the shore of a  beach on a Greek Island.  Picture palm trees, a crystal clear ocean and an azure colored sky.  The air is whispers a warm breeze and you sink deep into the soft white sand. 

Run a bath and add a cup of Epsom or dead sea salts combined with the glycerin and three drops of the essential oil of mandarin, 2 drops bergamot and 1 drop of rose or jasmine.  Slide into your tub and rest.  Close your eyes and think of being away, or doing exactly what you feel like doing and not what anyone else wants or needs you to do.  Then think about what life would be like if it was different. 

Use this time to think about your marriage.  What is it that is not satisfying you?  If you can't put your finger on it, realize that good and bad times are all part of life. 

True this isn't a sabbatical but it is a simple way to take a break and think about yourself if only for a few minutes.